Relationship or couples therapy can be overwhelming or intimating for many who are seeking or contemplating entering treatment. Often one or both partners worry that it will move them towards divorce, or that the therapist will side with one partner over the other, and that they will be left feeling unheard and invalidated. In my years of training in marriage and family therapy, as well as specialty training with couples, I am intentional in attending to the four relationships in couples sessions: the relationship of the partners, the relationship of each individual to me as the therapist, and the relationship of myself to the couple as a unit. My belief is that all four relationships must be continually tended to and trust and attunement must exist for the couple to feel safe and make effective changes to better their relationship.

In my work with couples, I use a blend of relational gestalt therapy, and emotionally focused couples therapy (EFT), an evidenced based treatment for helping couples therapy interrupt negative cycles of interactions and foster more strong attachment bonds. I also have training from the Gottman institute and draw on knowledge from experts such as Esther Perel.